okay don't think about having to talk spiritual issues or stuff like that...
but sometimes, just sometimes, you find a lot more meaning in friendships with non-believing people. I guess sometimes it happens, cuz with them, there is nothing for the friendship to be based upon, like having to go to church and having to be accountable. there is probably just friendship in all its meaning. the test comes when there is nothing to base it upon, like school, or some activity. There is only the friendship that will make you want to meet up with the person, and then actually DO manage to meet up too. And to hear those friends say we/I miss you, it's really nice to know someone needed you. that you mattered. someone wanted to see you on msn. someone wanted to receive your email. someone was waiting for you. someone was disappointed that you didn't appear, after all. someone was worried that something might have happened to you.
but with the other friends, you're just someone who's convenient, someone whom 'we will soon meet anyway', someone who's just okay, someone who, really and honestly, don't matter.
we all have many friends. people know us. but if say, I spend time to think about, there's hardly anyone who's a good friend, AND can hang out with as well. okay, fine so i'm busy. but there's hardly anyone to be fully comfortable with.
in story books and movies, or even those friendship quotes and stuff, they always say something to the gist of, a true friend is someone whom you can call anytime if I'm just feeling down. Never thought anything could be bad enough, but i remember just this once. and i just NEEDED to call someone. wasn't looking for a solution, or any comfort. but needed to TALK. 1st two persons didn't pick up. the next two did. people who i weren't very close to. people i never expected to call. but i called, and they listened.
boils down to how we define friendship. for all we know, we have NO true friends! they are there only by circumstance, and not choice. i know, most are. now, isn't that just depressing.